One (good?) thing about blogging is that even if someone takes you to task for your behaviour, it's an indirect and buffered conversation.
This past week or two my head has been lost inside a progression. It started with the acknowledged legitimate need to update a software product of mine, then combined with a hard drive failure where I lost a significant amount of non-critical but beloved data as the recovery of the data would involve the planned changes to the software product. Put this together with my obsession with problem-solving, and the acidic brew is complete, eating away at every other facet of my life. Laundry is undone, friends are untalked to, groceries are unpurchased, and other (more critical) work is unbegun.
Today I am wrestling with myself to turn away from the obsession and turn toward the necessities of life and work.
I am also wrestling with the ex-wife who is becoming regularly militant about the fact that I have refused to be her friend for the past couple of months. She's pissed off about it, and threatens to turn the relationship into the "standard divorced couple", taking away flexibility and friendliness. I don't want to mess up the positive aspects, but I also don't want to be any more involved with her than I have to be. And she owes me two grand at this point.
All of that aside, it's time to work. Clients await. And I need some income for a change.
Does she realize that the 'standard divorced couple' relationship does not work in her favour? Seems to me that she is threatening something that, if I were you, I would gladly accept. But then again, I am not you...
ReplyDeleteWell it did occur to me that there was a dissonance in the last conversation where she said we might as well be acquaintances, threw in a couple of warning shots, and asked to borrow a video camera.
ReplyDeleteThat and the fact that I'm working around her schedule and needs much more than the other way around.
I'm just trying to not worry about it, get her out of my head, and let whatever will be be.