I lay awake pondering the direction we are headed.
The dark-haired girl sleeps, I think.
Her perception of her lack of importance continues to cause arguments. She looks for apologies and I cannot find anything that I've done wrong.
Sometimes all is calm, and I carry forward. Sometimes the clues make me wonder what will be the experience if we are together.
By now, I must say, as a constant reader I feel...
ReplyDeleteShe seams like a great person, but I do not see in her behavior the serenity to deal with your family and your routine. As you write I picture her as a demanding, lonely person. And there is more...
If she can't understand something so easy to understand as you described when you travel to the US and you had to shop for your kids, something is really wrong there.
Is she too young? She sounds so immature...
I'm sorry if my English is not ok, but I'm a foreigner...
Oh... I read what I wrote you and it sounded so harsh! It was not suppose to be harsh... I'm sorry If my tone got to this level, I just wanted to write some things I was realizing, thinking, but as I read it again it sounded awful.
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Ana
She is a nice person, a giving person. If it were not for this one issue I would have no complaints, or at least none that occur to me at the moment. It just seems to come out of the blue, or come back when I think it's long gone. I just don't understand.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I bear some responsibility as I should hold fast where I don't feel things are fair. I must be patient. Communication is needed, too...
Its simple really, your girlfiend has a different definition of the expectations within a relationship than you do. Not that either one is wrong or right. Also, your requiremnts are very different because you have a resposibility to your kids and she is completely free. It seems that its hard for her to empathise with a situation she has never experienced. I think just talking things through will help, and when you feel like she is looking for apologies, remember, you have done nothing wrong.
ReplyDeleteIf you are happy being around her and she makes you feel good, then the rest of it is a matter of adjusting and learning.