Petting

Someone needs to explain this to me.

As I'm petting my cat it occurs to me that I miss having a woman to touch. :-) Sounds bad, doesn't it? But for all my supposed geekiness, and independence, and blah blah blah, I really enjoy the tactile experience of being with another human being, female to be exact.

So why can't I?

When I worked at the Keg, it was a common thing to see the waiters giving shoulder massages to the waitresses at the end of the night when they were cashing out. I could never bring myself to do that -- too shy, too worried about what was appropriate.

Now I'm not shy, and I can see the possibility of situations where it would be ok to do it. But I don't have the situations available to me.

I'm absolutely sure that I'm not the only person on the planet who likes or needs physical human contact, and I'm not talking about sex here.

So here's what I need explained to me. Why is it that I don't have anyone that I can give a shoulder rub to? Shouldn't it be easy to find someone like that? Or is it prevented by the perception that it's dangerous to let a stranger touch you in any way, shape, or form?

Comments??

Post Script
Hmmm... but as I consider this further I would not want to rub just anyone... I suspect there would have to be some attraction there... which answers my own question a bit, doesn't it? Still, there are people I'm attracted to, that are perhaps attracted to me...